Father’s Day is coming up this weekend, and we’d thought we’d take some time to share some thoughts about today’s dad. We’d like to honor them and encourage them with this post:
For dads, rookies, and veterans alike, life isn’t easy. Balancing your varied roles, being emotionally and physically present, finances, teaching character and values, the list goes on and on.
Dads step into our Claris Parenting program with many of these anxiety-ridden thoughts. And we’ve noticed an interesting pattern develop as they try to get their heads around the concept of fatherhood, often for the first time:
Here’s a short video from a recent client that brings this pattern to life for a new dad:
While this pattern takes many shapes and forms, it can act as a guidepost with valuable insights into the psyche of dad and parenting:
- Knowing you won’t be in one place forever can be comforting. This cycle applies to many different parenting contexts and situations – for new and veteran dads. Perhaps if we realize there’s a cycle in the first place, it will be easier to stomach and progress.
- The cycle of fathering presents opportunity for men’s greatest desires – battle, adventure, purpose. Men thrive on opportunities to be the hero; many simply just need eyes to see their situations as such.
- Cycles require intentional movement, not stagnation. Bravery is a decision, not something you wait to feel. It’s a decision that compassion is more important than fear or anger.
- There’s acknowledgement that it’s hard, and maybe feeling that it’s hard means you’re doing something right. A lot of important jobs are hard; parenting is no exception.
Dads, with all this in mind, we applaud you. You endlessly fight the fight to make our lives better and stand as a pillar of strength. Your task is daunting and as confusing as ever. But, we know that you have what it takes to rise to the occasion. If you have questions about becoming or being a dad, we’re here for you. Feel free to contact us to attend a Dad’s Workshop, counseling, and for support.
Please love on all the dads out there this weekend!